Don’t get me wrong for even one second. I LOVE LOVE LOVE what I do. In fact, I wrote a whole post about it recently on our Leaders Blog. I sincerely believe I have the best/coolest/most rewarding job on the face of the planet. And really, who could argue with this cuteness?
But that’s where the conversation usually ends with most people who also think they have the “best/coolest/most rewarding job”. Most business owners I know won’t openly divulge the icky, not-so-fun parts of what they do, which is terribly unfair. Business ownership is often put on a tall, shiny pedestal without so much as a mention of how that pedestal was built, how it stays standing and polished, and what it takes to stay there living the perceived awesome entrepreneurial life.
Want the honest to goodness truth?? It takes a lot of hard work and grit. We are talking serious determination. Long hours. Unpaid work. Tons of trial AND error. Revisions like you wouldn’t believe. And so on and so on…
There are things I have dealt with as a business owner that I never thought I would encounter in my life, let alone before I was 30. I have had to learn so many things outside my general scope of knowledge and way outside comfort zone (website building anyone). I am challenged and encounter something new nearly every day. I have had to learn to rely on other people in my life who love me (especially my incredibly supportive husband, amazing family, and outstanding business partner, thank you all!!) and learn to accept help… which is really hard for me. I have had to accept that there are serious growing pains that come with trying to grow my business that also seriously affect my personal budget. I have had to learn that there are very few things I have complete control of and that I have to trust the people and processes I am surrounded by. I have had to have some serious moments and really tough conversations with people. I have had to put on my big girl pants and become a real boss in both my personal and professional life.
Yes, those are the some of the hard parts and I don’t anticipate them to just going away. Every day that I am a business owner, I fully expect to be challenged. I understand, acknowledge, and accept that some days are going to be really rough and more often than not there is nothing I can do to change those things that occur.
The one thing I can control is my response. How I cope. How I react. How I handle myself in stressful situations. And how I learn and grow along the way.
Today, was tough. I felt anxious and upset when I was walking through my front door. My first instinct was to curl up in a ball and cry. My second was to run. So, I ran. I employed a couple of my favorite self-care strategies and went for it. I listened to a podcast that I knew would be motivating and a pushed myself to run faster! When I got home, I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders and like I could move forward with what I needed to get done.
Getting to the point: There will be hard days, tough situations, and challenging moments. I handle them with lots of support from my friends and family, engaging in serious self-care strategies that work for me, taking time for reflection and rest, and acknowledging that all of the hard work I have put in has helped build something incredible that will simply keep growing every day because I love what I do.