Handling the Hard Parts of Owning a Business

Don’t get me wrong for even one second.  I LOVE LOVE LOVE what I do. In fact, I wrote a whole post about it recently on our Leaders Blog.    I sincerely believe I have the best/coolest/most rewarding job on the face of the planet.  And really, who could argue with this cuteness? Music Class With Katey

But that’s where the conversation usually ends with most people who also think they have the “best/coolest/most rewarding job”.  Most business owners I know won’t openly divulge the icky, not-so-fun parts of what they do, which is terribly unfair.  Business ownership is often put on a tall, shiny pedestal without so much as a mention of how that pedestal was built, how it stays standing and polished, and what it takes to stay there living the perceived awesome entrepreneurial life.

Want the honest to goodness truth??  It takes a lot of hard work and grit. We are talking serious determination. Long hours. Unpaid work. Tons of trial AND error. Revisions like you wouldn’t believe. And so on and so on…

There are things I have dealt with as a business owner that I never thought I would encounter in my life, let alone before I was 30.  I have had to learn so many things outside my general scope of knowledge and way outside comfort zone (website building anyone).  I am challenged and encounter something new nearly every day.  I have had to learn to rely on other people in my life who love me (especially my incredibly supportive husband, amazing family, and outstanding business partner, thank you all!!) and learn to accept help… which is really hard for me.  I have had to accept that there are serious growing pains that come with trying to grow my business that also seriously affect my personal budget.  I have had to learn that there are very few things I have complete control of and that I have to trust the people and processes I am surrounded by.  I have had to have some serious moments and really tough conversations with people.  I have had to put on my big girl pants and become a real boss in both my personal and professional life.

Yes, those are the some of the hard parts and I don’t anticipate them to just going away.  Every day that I am a business owner, I fully expect to be challenged.  I understand, acknowledge, and accept that some days are going to be really rough and more often than not there is nothing I can do to change those things that occur.

The one thing I can control is my response. How I cope. How I react. How I handle myself in stressful situations. And how I learn and grow along the way.Running for the Win

Today, was tough. I felt anxious and upset when I was walking through my front door.  My first instinct was to curl up in a ball and cry. My second was to run. So, I ran.  I employed a couple of my favorite self-care strategies and went for it. I listened to a podcast that I knew would be motivating and a pushed myself to run faster!   When I got home, I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders and like I could move forward with what I needed to get done.

Getting to the point: There will be hard days, tough situations, and challenging moments. I handle them with lots of support from my friends and family, engaging in serious self-care strategies that work for me, taking time for reflection and rest, and acknowledging that all of the hard work I have put in has helped build something incredible that will simply keep growing every day because I love what I do.

2016: Simplify, Streamline, Self-Care (part 3)

STOP!!!!  Stop what you are doing right now!

Take a deep breath. 

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How did that feel?  Pretty great, right? Take another one. A slow, deep breath.  Remind yourself to simply breathe and take a second to step away from everything.

Close your eyes and take another deep breath.

 You’ve got this. 

When I feel myself starting to tense up and my shoulders slowly creeping toward my ears, I remind myself to stop, take a moment. Breathe. Remember, to breathe.

Previously, I’ve talked A LOT about self care in a series called “Love Yourself”.  However, it’s soooo important that I’m going to rehash it now.

Take at least a little time out of every single day to…you guessed it…

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Do something (literally ANYTHING) for yourself.

We get so consumed in the tasks we “have” to do every day that we simply forget to take care of ourselves.  We forget that in order to care for our families, help other people, or be successful at work, that we first have to take care of our selves.  We have to make sure our proverbially batteries recharge at some point so they don’t shut down and power off entirely.

Self-Care can be ANYTHING!!!

It can be anything that helps you to recharge, unwind, relax, find yourself, or however you like to look at it. It just has to be something for YOU! No one else. JUST YOU!

Can it help someone along the way… sure, maybe. But, it has to help you!

How do I self-care: Jogging, baths, reading, cooking (when I WANT TO), playing piano (for fun), wine, drawing, watching Netflix with my husband, writing, going to the dog park (with the dog), taking pictures, organizing my closet, writing a blog post, shopping for home decor, taking a nap, calling my sister, yoga/pilates, coffee dates, meditating, coloring, massages, traveling, etc.

I want to know…

How do YOU self-care?

2016: Simplify, Streamline, Selfcare

After a very long and productive meeting on Tuesday, Rachel and I established  three key words for the new year.

Simplify, Streamline, Self-care

I have been in an constant state to growth, movement, and just trying to keep up over the past several months and needed to take a moment to assess where I’m at and what the next steps are.  Personally, I think the business will continue to grow and develop without much extra work, which is good because I’ve run out of hours in the day to add new tasks.  That’s not to say that I won’t be working, but that I’m  attempting to not take on anything EXTRA that will distract from the awesome growth that is happening and instead use any additional time I have (outside my normal work load) to focus on enhancing what is working and eliminating or adjusting what is not.

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In 2016, I believe we can ALL benefit from is implementing the words above.  I have decided to adopt these words as not only a work motto but as a personal theme as well.  In the next few posts I’ll share my thoughts on each and the action steps I have to achieve them.

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There are a number of things that I either do because I feel like I have to or because I’ve overcomplicated things.   It doesn’t help that I’m also surrounded by so much “stuff” all the time.  The never ending to-do lists and mountains of “stuff” take their toll and easily make me feel overwhelmed.

In 2016, I want to cut some of the “stuff”  from my life.  In “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up”, Marie Kondo asks readers the challenging question, “Does it spark joy?”  If the answer is no, get rid of it! NOW!  While she may be talking about the clutter in your closet or your home, I like to take this question to a more personal and professional level. Does writing this blog post spark joy?  Does the dress I’m wearing my me feel good? Does checking facebook 67 times a day make me any happier?   Do these 6 items really need to be on my to-do list or is there someone far more capable who can do this in a way that will save me time, energy, and unneeded stress?

These might seem like silly questions, but they are a really good way to reassess what I want and need to make my life as joyful as possible.  By simplifying, I’m going to declutter my life thus creating more time and energy for the things and people I love.

Action steps:

  1. Ask, does it spark joy?  If not, it’s gone!
  2. Delegate, assign, ask for help, hire someone, etc. (You don’t have to do everything yourself)
  3. Eliminate the little to-dos and never-ending list by creating short, actionable goals and objectives that can be achieved within a reasonable time frame.

 

What are your goals for the new year??

Love Yourself: How Do You Self Care? pt. 3

Continuing our series on loving yourself, I’m sharing a few more ways I cope and carve out some time for me!  How do you self care?  Comment below or share a pic on my facebook or twitter.

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Healthy Eating
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Baths!
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Running!!
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Sunsets
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Flowers & Gardening
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Coffee! (and cookies)
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Love Yourself: Self Care pt. 2

I’m going to be very honest:

Last week was not great.  Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday had a lot of negative, saddening, and anxiety-filled happenings.  When that series of events was stacked on top of everything I already have going and all that I am working on (all positive, but lots of big changes and events coming up), I couldn’t handle it.  I was struggling to keep myself for crying all day Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday.  I felt panicky.  I felt down.  I was not myself.

For those of you who know me even in the slightest, that’s not who I am AT ALL!  My mother-in-law even describes me as full of life and excited about everything.  I smile almost constantly.

I knew I was in real trouble when I sat down for a meal with my husband on Wednesday and he said, “I’m worried about you.  You aren’t yourself”.   He suggested I take a few days off to re-center, deal with the events earlier in the week, and get back to myself.

I listened. 

I took a few days off where I didn’t return emails.  I didn’t answer phone calls.  I didn’t do any work. I put myself first and dealt with them hand of cards I had been dealt.

I know that if I would have gone to work, I wouldn’t have done even half the job that I normally would do.  I wouldn’t have been an effective instructor, therapist, or administrator.  I had too much to deal with personally to be good at my job, to be present with my clients, and to do what I wanted.

Now of course I have a TON to catch up on this week, but I feel much more ready to handle everything and be productive in a way that will be effective for my clients and my company.  I feel like myself.

I am so thankful for my wonderful husband and family.  They listen, they make me laugh, they help me cope, and they are always there when I need them.  They help me see when I need to make a change and know me better than I sometimes know myself.

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So, do yourself a favor.  Surround yourself with people who love you, who listen, and who will tell you the truth.  Surround yourself with people who care enough to tell you when they see something amiss.  Listen to those people.  Listen to yourself.  Take time when you need it.  You aren’t doing anyone any good when you aren’t at your best.

Take care of yourself so you can be best the version of you!